What Do You Say After You Say Hello
基本信息
作者: Eric Berne
Paperback: 512页
出版社: CORGI BOOKS (2018年10月4日)
语种: 英语
ISBN: 9780552176224
产品尺寸及重量: 129 x 197 x 40 (mm) | 356g
页面参数仅供参考,具体以实物为准
书籍简介
本书是沟通分析创始人伯恩最重要的著作,讲述人如何在年幼的时候“规划”了自己的人生脚本,又如何践行“失败者”的角色。伯恩与其他精神分析流派的不同主张是,心理治疗不应该仅仅是使人好受一点或是更适应一点,而是要彻底改变原有的脚本命运,活出真正成功和幸福的人生。他不仅帮助人们认识到自己的失败脚本,也帮助人们改写脚本,不再受其无形的约束。伯恩的写作风格和他的治疗一样,风趣幽默、又极犀利,使人欲罢不能。
你新认识了某个人。你说“你好”。对方也说“你好”。接下来你会说什么?你又会做什么?你会匆匆离去吗?你会主动交流吗?还只是等着?还是什么?
好吧,在本书中,艾瑞克·伯恩说,无论你接下来做了什么,都取决于你的“脚本”。你现在如何回应他人取决于你小时候做出了关于自己、关于他人以及关于世界的怎样的情感决定。脚本是关于你打算如何度过一生的计划。你制订这个计划时还只是个小孩子,它基于你当时对世界的了解。早年决定由你做出,在人生的后续阶段,你也可以根据需要改变这些决定,即改变你的脚本。
脚本是了解人类命运的重要概念。脚本可以解释为什么一个人终其一生都在努力,却仍旧无法感到满足;也可以解释另一个人为什么在人生中只是做了点小事,却感到相当欢喜。或者,为什么一个人很会与人打交道,而另一个人却备感孤独;为什么一个人在年老时适应良好,而另一个人却感到想跳下桥头,终结生命。
脚本的内涵相当深厚。本书是一本经典著作,因为脚本这个概念第一次在心理学及沟通分析领域被提出。
From the master of transactional analysis, What Do You Say After You Say Hello? explains what makes the winners win, the losers lose, and the in-betweens so boring... In this book, Dr Eric Berne reveals how everyone's life follows a predetermined script - a script they compose for themselves during early childhood. The script may be a sad one, it may be a successful one; it decides how a person will relate to their colleagues, what sort of person they will marry, how many children they will have, and even what circumstances they will die in...
What Do You Say After You Say Hello? demonstrates how each life script gets written, how it works and, more importantly, how anyone can improvise or change their script to make a happy ending. It gives you the insight to recognise the underlying motivations behind your actions and better understand your own psychology.
作者简介
艾瑞克·伯恩(Eric Berne),美国心理学家,早年学习精神分析,20世纪50年代创立沟通分析流派(Transactional Analysis,简称TA)。其沟通分析法在此后的几十年中,在心理治疗、教育、管理以及各个与人际关系密切相关的工作领域里,产生了积极而深远的影响。
Dr Eric Berne, as the originator of transactional analysis, was always recognised as an important innovator in the field, but it was not until his Games People Play became an international bestseller that his methods achieved wide popularity. In his writings, until his death in 1970, Dr Berne outlined the principles of his system in works such as Games People Play, A Layman's Guide to Psychiatry, Sex in Human Loving, and Principles of Group Treatment. Dr Berne was a practising psychiatrist in Carmel, California, and held many important posts in professional psychiatric organisations and clinics.